Getting the Life You DesireRead Now
What blocks us from having the life we truly desire?
You want to get your health back on track after struggling with regular colds, digestive issues, stress, depression, allergies...
You may not be 'sick' but you know you ought to feel better than you do.
And you know what you are supposed to do (or at least know what you are not supposed to do), however you keep falling back in the groove of old behaviours.
Back to eating comfort foods, lots of sugar, relying on stimulants like alcohol and coffee, staying up late, not exercising - all the things that you know cumulatively make you feel worse.
You know you feel better when you are eating nutritious whole foods, doing more movement, engaging in stress-reducing practices. But you just can't seem to make those habits stick.
Does that sound like you?
The reality is that adopting and sustaining new habits is difficult. It can take a good amount of time for a habit to stick. Complicating this further is that depending on the habit it can not take much to undo the good habit.
Does this mean you throw up your arms and shout, "What's the point then?"
HELL NO! but it's time to get serious about all the baggage that holds you back.
Over the years that I have been teaching and working with people to become genuinely embodied and aligned with their highest potential: body, I have been taught a lot about this journey. By far, the most important observation I have witnessed is that this struggle is within the mind. The person needs a lot of mental fortitude to make the change.
We humans have a default orientation that is negative. It's evolutionary and served us when we needed to survive a tough environment. To assume there is a crocodile in the water and be ready to flee or fight, helped us to survive. Those that didn't have it were dinner. But this default, has become detrimental to our bodies (read: stress hormones) and the way we live and claim sovereignty in our own lives.
One of the biggest obstacles to manifesting our dreams is fear and self sabotage. Our mind is a powerful vehicle and manifests what we are feeding it. All of our thoughts, beliefs, words and emotions are the antenna that we put out into the world.
We tend to think that our mind is operating from a conscious focal awareness, however the reality is that 90-99% of what you think originates from the subconscious. Beneath the layers of critical-thought functions of the conscious mind lies a powerful awareness (subconscious) that has archived everything you have ever thought, felt and experienced in your life to date. This excellent secretary has taken stock of it all and if you are anything like me (and the 7.7 billion others), life hasn't always been a bliss-filled ride.
I see the subconscious as the lens that we see life through without really knowing we are even wearing glasses. We can reshape our reality by changing what we place in our mind, however in my experience this only gets us so far. For example, daily Gratitude practices are very positive and powerful in fostering contentment and gratefulness,, however, if the wounds of being bullied haven't been healed and embodied we are only placing a band-aid on it.
"How do we go beyond what we consciously 'know' and clear the archives of the subconscious", you ask.
Like many who are called to do this kind of work, I too, am a Wounded Healer. Deeply motivated to understand and heal the pain and suffering of my own life experiences, I have for more than 30 years tried to understand our deepest needs and longings, as well as the incredible legacy of practices that have been passed on in service to our evolution and healing.
As a psychologist and someone who sought safety in the world, I trusted that my mind was the vehicle to healing and deeper awakening. For me, this was a comfortable and familiar place to work from - examination and understanding of my behaviours and thoughts would liberate me from suffering.
What I have learned over the years, both working with myself and hundreds of people is that it is the mind that get us into this mess and it's not capable of fully getting us out.
You may remember that the archives of the subconscious hold everything we have experienced, felt, thought. And because there is no separation, the body knows and holds the energy of everything. It can not be fooled. Over our lifetime, the body comes to hold all that is unresolved and therefore we must also include the body in our healing journey.
My personal journey has seen me explore many things in an effort to become fully embodied... dance, meditation, breath, tantra, yoga, plant medicines, trance dance, shamanic journey work, fasting, prayer, mantra, bodywork...
I have and will continue to peel back the layers using the most accessible and effective tools I have come across in order to live with deep joy, harmony and love.
This is important. You are not broken. What you seek is within you - in fact, it is waiting for you. So despite not always being 'easy', it need not be a dry, serious and burdened journey. Reclaim the joy and innocence of a child - Move, Breathe, Laugh, Share because in the end it is ALL about LOVE.
And isn't that what we ALL truly want?
I want you to shine. Reach out if you would like a free and non-binding talk about how we can work together.
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Nature- Our Greatest TeacherRead Now
No matter your tradition, practice or interpretation, we are all affected by the simple yet significant shift in the sun's light. The spring and fall equinoxes along with the summer and winter solstices, mark the change in the cycle of light on our earth.
The spring equinox represents our movement through the darkness towards light. In the winter the earth holds the awakening energy of life (the seed), and in the spring, this life-force arises from its dark incubation into the light. The natural cycles of night and day, growth and rest, creation and destruction, balance the internal and external journeys of our lives. Think of the power and implications of these subtle shifts in nature and then take a moment to reflect on what that may mean for all of us who are also a part of nature .
Nature exquisitely teaches us that darkness balances light. By accepting this balance we neutralize our fear of the dark, and discover its profound gifts. For it is only through our struggles and grief that we find humility; through trauma we discover grace and healing; and through our depression and anxiety we unearth our illusions and reunite with our innocence, strength and awe.
The balance we seek is within ourselves, in the deep love and gratitude we shine on our wounds and imperfections. Day and night are in balance now and from this equality - new life emerges. Now it is time to bring the dark into the light and the light into the dark. The integration of these opposites holds wondrous potential for us as individuals and as co creators on an interdependent planet.
You may ask what this has to do with my work - breathwork, yoga/ayurveda, energy medicine, psychology? Truthfully, it has everything to with it. My works in both subtle and not so subtle ways, aim to awaken you to Nature within you. By opening the channels of your breath, moving your body, harmonising the flow of life force within, inviting self-care and the body's innate capacity to self-heal - you are awakening to the ecology of your entire being.
And just as an acorn knows it is destined to be an oak tree, your spirit also knows the reality of who you are beyond the self-imposed limitations of the ego and wounded self. Our mind is a wonderful tool, but it is not the driver of this body-vehicle. By honouring the rhythms of nature, we rouse the wisdom of our heart and spirit to guide us and this is where miracles happen.
This month offers a potent day that is wonderful to connect to Nature, March 20th - the Spring Equinox and first day of Spring.
March 20th- Spring Equinox
On this day the northern hemisphere begins its tilt towards the Sun; then, come the spring equinox the big, bright star will bisect the equator and shine down on the North and South poles in the same amount.
Ways to honour Spring Equinox:
Danielle Satya Parla
Here I share more about what I love: breath, yoga, ayurveda, psychology, energy medicine & Mother Earth.